Things have changed a lot. After years
of keeping and making our lives busy for what the world pushes us to work for,
we have realized so many things, so many realities. These just appeared to
us unexpectedly. But it seemed to be perfectly matched to what it really
matters in the world we are in.
I had a classmate in college whom
I usually my companion in drinking sessions and study periods. Looking back to what life we had in the
formation, was quite incredible somehow immaturity really lingers in our
juvenile minds and reasons. Now, he is a teacher in a Catholic institution somewhere
in our city. For quite a year, he has already accustomed of what image and
ethical standards he has to project and act. I invited him for a lunch. I presumed
that his classes were dismissed before the noontime for a lunch break.
We have several conversations
before talking about what life we had in the seminary formation. But now a
different subject matter reveals vividly in the dialogue. Somewhat like a predominantly a more mature theme
disclosed. Actually, we missed a lot the discourse we used to tackle when we
were in the seminary formation.
Since we took Philosophy as a
degree, we are fond of thinking and philosophizing at some point. But we are
not that very proficient on that account. But we can discuss. We can argue. We can
reason out. We can offer fair argument. We can refute. We can affirm. We can
decide to what we believe is right and true.
The tête-à-tête swirled for quite sometimes and learned the
following things.
Put the pride beside.
Pride might somehow a source of
evil, root of greediness and anger. We believe that pride is also an essence
and part and parcel of being human. Pride might not only connote negative
ideals but a positive one as well. Pride and proud usually are interrelated. Both
capture honour and personal excellence. But to too much of it will push towards
an imbalanced vanity.
It came across, that when we are
in relationship, whatever it is, in family, co-workers, special someone, putting
the pride beside is a task for us to maintain good relationship. Though how
hard to think and control it, but we need to. For both of us who understood, we
act as we understand.
Bear it.
The environment is perfectly
imperfect. Fools might be around. But goodness always wins. The challenge of environment
we work with is new to us. Idealism is still part of our struggle. The pain of
realities confronted us without malice. Rather than to avoid it, bear it. For bearing
it, it does not mean foolishness. Instead, it signifies strengths and
compassion to the subject.
Wait until it is gone.
Anger is a natural emotional
reaction. Anger occurs usually because of dissatisfaction, of irritation, of
feeling embarrassed. In confronting anger of other people, we realized that waiting
is worthy than setting yourself to a hasty solution. If we have been in a
situation of defying the anger of another person, we will just wait until it is
gone.
Learn from it.
With all those experiences, we are called to learn from it.
Have fun.
Enjoy and have fun.
